I am terrified of this man, and he's convinced we are going to get married.... what do I do?
A while back I was engaged to a man with whom I had had an on-again-off-again relationship. Our engangement was founded on feeble beginnings, and did not last long. When I went to visit him after he moved to Seattle I learned that he was a drug addict. And after some growing up, also saw that he was more than likely emotionally damaged, as well as a sociopathic, mentally abusive (for lack of better term) ass.
He was the first guy I ever dated, and I have this thing in the back of my mind that no matter how bad things get between us, I would like to keep him as a friend, because he was someone who held a monumental place in my life.
I have not spoken to him since I left Seattle, with an exception for one out-of-the-blue text from him telling me to leave him alone and never speak to him again. All I could think was you got it. I wasnt talking to you anyway…weirdo
Friday, I got a call from him. He told me that he loves me (never said this as long as I have known him, even when, at 18, I told him that I did, in fact, love him); that he wants to have babies with me, that he still wants to get married, that the way he treated me before was his life’s greatest mistake, and that he wants a chance to make it right, that to him on a scale of 1 to 10 I am a 12, that he looks at my picture every day, that he can’t stop thinking about me, misses me, and wants to be with me.
I told him I’m not interested. My current relationship isn’t perfect, but I’m happy. I would never even consider leaving it for him. I told him I would listen to what he had to say, but that he became overly pushy that could go away.
He told me he would see me in 3 weeks. And that he was coming home to convince me I still love him, too.
WHAT DO I DO? I don’t want to be rude to this guy, but I don’t want to be with him, and I sure as heck do not want him hanging around my home. Life is peaceful without him and I’m not at all wanting him to toy with that. The specifics are long and dramatic, but he has a history of breaking my heart, and leaving BIG scars. And anyway, I’m involved with someone else. I’m freaking out. I don’t want him here. I don’t him around. I don’t want to deal with him. I will talk to him, because I think our history warrants that right (for now); however, my heart is my main concern, not his rights.
Help!
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