Here are some of the things that men and women can do equally. These things sustained a straight edge relationship for me for several years: drawing, drawing each other, drawing each other with your eyes closed, cards, have a conversation by writing on a piece of notebook instead of talking (using different forms communication can be amazing!), Madlibs, find a river with a rope swing and you will never be bored, sports that your boyfriend are terrible at, going to the recycling center and cashing in for a movie rental, create trash sculptures after dumpster diving if you are brave, lasagna night with friends, salvation army spree, pick outfits for each other to wear on a coffee/tea shop date, read a foreign newspaper or book together with a dictionary, get ‘mistake’ paint from Home Depot for a dollar and paint an accent wall, cook a normal meal and find a rooftop or forest to set up candles and and have a night ‘out’! One thing that hasn’t been mentioned is volunteer work. Usually people don’t drink or do drugs while they volunteer, it’s rewarding, and allows some level of socialization. Find something you both like, non-profits always need volunteers, and actually you can get into some pretty rad venues and events as a volunteer for free and also not feel like you’re just standing around, in other words it keeps you busy! (concerts, festivals, benefit dinners, theater, cleanups, owl prowls or free nature hikes, jazz fests, an about a million more things). Good luck!