Let me see if I understand the core of the questions correctly. You are asking how to one overcome the blow of having someone crush your dreams with words or behavior, and also how to become resilient or use anger to dust off and get back in the fight. I am in the business of helping people change their lives and work on life long goals and plan dreams. Does that make me an expert, no. But Having lived a life full of up hill battles and becoming resilient does.
I don’t subscribe to the getting angry idea, I tap into my passion, another very strong emotion, and this is what I teach. Your Passion is your best tool, your best defense against the negative nellies and the scorn of others. Get grounded deep in a plan of action. Goals are Dreams with action plans.
I believe that it is those goals you feel passionate about that are the ones you need to follow through on. Not the ones you like or feel love for, but the one or two you feel PASSSIONATE about! Expect to get knocked down, laughed at, ridiculed even loose friends and colleagues. People will not always understand your DREAM. Many will be envious and try to talk you out of it or convince you its a bad idea. Expect it! It can be a lonely place when you first building your dream. Remember if you don’t act on your Dreams you will be building someone else’s the rest of your life.
It has been my experience that resilience is taught by life experience and understanding yourself, having a clear focus from day one of what you believe, what you want and what you need to reach it. So make a plan A and a plan B & C. The first one doesn’t always work, you need to learn to be flexible. It will help build you up against the days when everything seems to go splat!
There have been many books written, many speeches and talks given on the subject of motivation, dream building and over coming challenges. Most everyone who has lived on the planet has a story to tell. Read, there will be that one or maybe two stories that will inspire you, hit just the right connection to instill the push you needed to get past that last hurtle.
Look for like minded people who have succeeded. Join a mentoring group of entrepreneurs and get support. You don’t always have to reinvent the wheel. Start your own think tank in your town or even online. Build up your support network. This will help build your resilience strength and you’ll have those around you that believe.