@Dutchess_III I’ll take a stab at what @SwanSwanHummingbird is saying here. You’ve probably heard this scenario before:
Guy: What’s wrong?
Girl: (SIGH…) Nothing. (fumes)
Guy: What did I do?
Depending on who you are, what you take away from that exchange could be completely different. A lot of guys might think, “Haha, yeah. Women, am I right?” But women might see it from the opposite angle. Like, maybe he forgot your birthday, or hit on your teenage sister, or joked about rape. To you, it might be blindingly obvious that these things are wrong. But the thought that any of these are wrong never even crosses his mind. He thinks he’s being funny or clever. For him to understand why you’re upset, he’d have to adjust his entire worldview.
Most people are not willing to adjust their entire worldview. Chances are, if you speak up, he’ll just get defensive or say you’re being “bitchy” or ask if you’re PMSing. To the girl in this scenario, trying to explain why she’s upset would be like Sisyphus rolling the boulder up the hill for the millionth time. It would be difficult and futile, a losing proposition.
That’s basically what just happened in that exchange:
“Your post didn’t make any sense. I had no idea what point you were trying to make.”
(Insert heavy sigh) “Exactly.”
There has literally been an entire civil rights movement about stuff like this. (facepalm)