There was a time that I was very insecure and I was prone to snooping, and that is what I see being the issue with your situation, @jeremy0207 – this girl is untrusting, which often degrades relationships in one way or another. It could be that she’s been burned in the past, or maybe she has self-esteem issues and doesn’t feel deserving of your affection. I’ve been on the other side with a jealous ex, and always felt that I was on trial and had to prove my devotion to him and it was never good enough.
Like @SadieMartinPaul, my fiancĂ© and I have full access to each others digital media – we even share a password-security app, so we could literally go anywhere in each others’ digital life. The key factor is that we DON’T. For us there is no need for privacy between each other, because we are each others’ best friends. I don’t understand how one could be choose a life partner with someone unless they feel 100% safe and “at home” around them. Of course, the OP is probably not at that stage of life just yet; but finding a life partner is generally the ultimate goal of dating.