It is something we need to work past. @Mimishu1995, you have advance warning available to you from our mistakes. To gain equality, it helps to let men know what we expect for ourselves, and what changes we hope to make, and how it would affect them. Men can be very insecure, and once they believe they have a position in their community, they are afraid to do anything to cause change. They need to be reassured that we haven’t stopped wanting them around. We have to let them know they are still important. We have to help them through the changes, so they don’t feel lost, or left behind. Men hate to be left behind. In they ways that they must do new things, such as being more helpful in the living quarters, they first have to understand that they are not being demoted. They need to understand that what gets done in the living space is important, and that everyone can take pride in doing well the tasks. They need to see that they are not being traded something dumb for something special, but simply more level, more equal. For instance, two people could have fifty dollars, but one has their money all in coin, the other has theirs all in paper. If they do some trading, neither has to be carrying all the heavy coins, but both can still have fifty dollars. Men here in the states were hit with, “I can vote, and I want more in my life than just the walls of my home, and I’m going to take some classes. You start helping out around here.” BAM, they felt demoted and clueless. Women should have been more helpful with men, helping them understand the pitfalls of doing laundry, and which part of the tab to pull on disposable diapers so they don’t pull the adhesive clear off! Men were expected to suddenly make big changes in their lives with little or no help on how to accomplish various tasks. At long last many are now becomming quite admirable with home chores and child rearing, but so many were just left to struggle with the new stuff in their lives on their own. If women had prepared men better, we could have seen a much smoother transition. Things are getting there now, but there are still lots of men unsure of where they fit, and as long as we have that problem, they will resist strongly further changes.