The problem is not all guys and women are the same. I’ve seen plenty of men who pursue women, and prefer the hard-to-get game, to only turn into total bums once the relationship starts, progresses, and sometimes these guys get bored and need a new challenge. It’s also unfair to speculate that most women will react the same way you will, and not put yourself in the guy’s shoes for a moment.
The many relationships that have been successful when traditional ways of meeting were tossed aside simply rarely get any real exposure. This is because traditional folks do everything in their power to downplay these success, and then cherry pick the negative scenarios only. On top of this the newer dating paradigm has not really been given a chance to evolve.
Obviously you have your own preferences, just as I have mine, and we’re likely two completely different types of people. The fact that guys seem lazy today is an unfair stereotype I see many women using because I could call many women who expect guys to pursue them to be lazy too. I’ve seen plenty of guys pursue and play the white knight only to be ridiculed by the very woman they go out of their way for. I’ve seen these white knights dumped for the bad boy anyways many times. I could also blame sexual promiscuity for some of the issues you’ve brought up too, since sex is so open today, and being a virgin at even 18 seems like a big deal today.
The fact is there are many social problems causing many of the problems we’re seeing today, and obviously some of these will affect the new paradigm in a negative way. Many people with mindsets embedded from deep cultural biases and preferences will usually try to find flaws with a newer way of doing things. However, when anything is given enough time and a chance to progress, and when attitudes change, people learn to adjust to a new paradigm, and learn to like it.
Personally I’m traditional with some things, like paying for the date, being chivalrous, and I would be the one to propose if the relationship ever went that far. I make an exception with initiating, because this by far is the most important part of any relationship, because it’s absolutely vital that compatible people end up being with each other, and I have not seen really any evidence the old mechanical processes are really effective at accomplishing this.