A dear friend of mine flew to Washington to visit her son and two granddaughters who have lived a very sheltered life. She goes once a year. On the last trip my friend was sitting on the toilet while her granddaughter, twelve, was bathing “just to talk.” The girl’s mother was indignant about this and expressed it but my friend said the girl “couldn’t see anything because I adjusted my slacks so she couldn’t.” I think it was disrespectful to the girl but I know my friend would not understand why. My friend had already gotten into hot water with the mother by asking her GD, “how did you feel when you found there’s no Santa?” and the girl was crying her eyes out. My friend feels quite persecuted by her daughter in law. Do you agree the toilet and bathing incident was disrespectful to the girl? And yes; I can stay out of it. They have three bathrooms.