@jca I find women often feel like that and men worry about being bored or feeling underutilized. I think it is because women tend to be doing more scattered busy work. Men can focus on one thing, work, and relaxing at home. Women are working, dealing with the kids, shopping, and cooking. Certainly, some men are more involved than others with home life and kids, especially in the last 20 years, but single and divorced moms basically have the same stress as women 40 years ago when they furst started going back into the workforce, juggling everything, minus dealing with a husband, which can be less stressful a lot of the time I think.
When my mom was close to retirement my mom said, “I can’t wait to put my feet up.” My dad said to her, “I don’t want to see you just sitting around doing nothing all day in the house.” Her response, “then don’t watch.” She swims and walks everyday, still cooks for my father, and helps neighbors and sees girlfriends, so she is not just eating Mallomars on the couch, but she does whatever she wants.