Very few of the people who said they don’t allow them gave details about why. The ones who did mentioned mostly worry over molestation, guns or allergies. What was interesting is that several of the people who refused to let their kids go to other houses, were fine with hosting sleepovers, so they didn’t seem concerned about allegations against them. Honestly though, if I had an issue with sleepovers, that would be it because all it takes is one statement to ruin someone’s life forever. Ask the McMartin a Family. There was a lot of speculation among those who allowed it about why others did not and it was mostly in the form of judgment – saying they were paranoid helicopter parents.
I do make sure I know the parents of the kids where my kids spend the night with and as paranoid as it may sound, I do ask if there are guns in the home and if there are, whether they are secured. I have to admit to being surprised by several of my kid’s friends being allowed to stay with us without the parents having even spoken to myself or my husband.
Pi don’t mind the exhausted kid, makes them go to bed early the next night!