Whew!! This is quite a discussion. I am just browsing through questions, this is my first time on fluther and it is interesting. I am not sure how to even wade into this discussion. I am currently in Iraq on deployment. My wife is at home ‘making all the decisions’. She hates it, it is a lot to handle, three kids, bills, home ownership, gas prices, loneliness, and everything else. She tells me that she wishes I was there to take many of the responsibilities because she gets bogged down emotionally and physically. She could rest and let me handle many of the ‘chores’. I handle vehicle maintenance, yard maintenance, house maintenance, child ‘maintenance’, as well as being the only person in the house dedicated to her welfare. She loses who she is in all the responsibilities. When I am there, she can relax and be who she wants to be, she can rest emotionally. In the past she had to make the decisions, she had to call the shots, but she realized that it was stressing her out, I was there offering to make more of the decisions if she wanted and she slowly began to trust me with decisions to the point where she would explain a problem to me and ask me for a decision on it. I would think about it, pray about it, research it and come out with a course of action. Then she would come back and tell me she really appreciated me making that decision. Yikes, I just read the title again…addressed to women. oops. I guess I am answering for my wife..hehe.