I agree with @zenvelo ( we agree a lot, haha ) I had an old friend whose “sweetness” was cloying and self serving and she did, indeed, reveal her manipulative nature over time. Her ego was very invested in being seen as sweet and caring when in reality she was the needy one and everything she did for others was to prop up her own self image. She was a martyr and I fund it all very off putting. I would not consider myself “sweet” but I do consider myself friendly, open, humorous and genuine.
My friends just told me again what a joy I am to have around, they love my humor and trust me 100% to manage things when they are away. They too are sincerely nice people, no acts, they make loads of money and can do pretty much whatever they want but retain a very earthy demeanor and go out of their way to be altruistic whenever possible.
After living alone and being a very independent person I am kinda diggin’ this little communal scene we have goin’ on. It’s a good blend and I am learning that interdependence is not something to be feared but embraced.
There are plenty of genuinely nice and down to earth peeps that are not putting on an act, we should not become jaded to niceness nor assume