@Hypo
Did you skip reading the original details?
His problem is not with her age but with her extremely controlling behavior and lack of trust in him.
However, given not just the age difference but “stage of life ” difference between them that dynamic is hardly surprising. No wonder she is controlling and manipulative. It’s more like a Mother/child dynamic than two peers. He was 16 yrs. old and still a schoolboy.
Just because a 16 yr. old has the physical ability to have sex and create a baby, doesn’t mean there is the correspondent maturity to be an effective parent.
And he even recognized that. But did she respect that? Obviously not. Does that demonstrate responsible (or remotely trustworthy) behavior on her part? No, it doesn’t and the innocent child ends up paying the price.
I’m not so focused upon the whole pedophilia aspect of this since that’s clearly the past and can’t be undone.
I’m focused upon her character (or rather lack of it) and the damaging effects of the current relationship. Hence my advice to him. He’s out of the teenage lust fog now and beginning to see things clearly and wants better for his life. Obviously she does not respect him now and didn’t in the past (or she wouid have made certain not to force him into parenthood at 16).
Surely the responsible side of your nature can’t fail to see that. As far as I’m concerned, arguing back and forth about the pedophile aspect just distracts from the real problem at hand which he has expressed clearly.
Do you think you can please descend from your soapbox long enough to focus on the REAL issue here. We all know how you feel about the whole age issue, Lord knows you’ve expounded enough upon it so many times.
But that’s not the issue here. Arguing your age theories only serves to deflect attention from the issue at hand. Namely, that an extremely controlling relationship is abusive and he needs to free himself from it.