I’m not really sure what to do in this situation because I can’t tell if I’m over thinking things.

So my best girl friend’s boyfriend is also my best guy friend. I’ve known my girl friend longer, but her boyfriend is a cool person, so we hit it off pretty quick and have been friends for about 4 years now. I think of him as a brother, and I assume(d) he does too because he calls me “twin”.

Over this past summer I got a new job, and it just so happens that he also works there. They moved our desks around and we sit essentially back to back from each other. I see him everyday, so we talk a lot.

This is where the problem comes in. Lately I’ve just been getting weird vibes but I don’t know if it’s all in my head. I don’t know if he’s like this with his other friends, but I feel like he may be a little…..too friendly? It’s just small things I notice like he always calls me before he comes in if he’s getting breakfast on the way to work to ask if I want him to get anything for me. He notices when I wear my eye makeup slightly different. He notices when I change my hair up and always comments on it. He makes me coffee and will buy me lunch if he’s going out to get it. He told me that he doesn’t like tapping me on the shoulder or me touching him because since I’m like a sister it feels “incestuous”. And most recently (the thing that set alarms off in my mind) he complemented my lips. As in, I was sitting near him while waiting for my next assignment and he asked if I was wearing lip gloss or lipstick or something, I told him no, and he just replied “oh, well you just have very nice lips.”

Why the heck are you looking at my lips, sir?! You have a girlfriend! That just feels so flirty to me. If I was single, I’d definitely think he was flirting.

He’s friends with my boyfriend too, so he knows I’m not single. We’ve talked couple stuff together and double date outings and whatnot. I just feel kinda weird talking to him now. I don’t want him to think I’m ignoring him or being rude because I do value his friendship, but it just feels wrong….both for my relationship and for his. I don’t like him in that way, I love my boyfriend, so I guess I’m just weirded out by it at this point.

What should I do? Am I just seeing things that aren’t there or do I have reason to be concerned?

TL;DR I think my best friend is flirting with me and I don’t know if I should break our friendship or not

Topics: relationships, work, friendship, coworkers, flirting