Back in college, we were drinking and shooting the shit when the topic of first times came up.

Most of them consisted of those awkward first moments. Lots of laughing and commiserating.

Then it came round to one of my guy friends. He shrugged and said he didn’t have too much to say about it. He was just at a party and had passed out on the couch. When he woke up, there was this girl on top of him.

Most of the other guys’ reactions to this was to either high five him and/or ask if the girl was hot.

He didn’t seem like he was bragging. Wouldn’t have been like him to brag or make this up. He actually seemed kind of uncomfortable about it.

Personally, I found all of this pretty disturbing. Both his story and the general reaction.

Don’t think there would have been much to gain by saying “Hey, I don’t think she had any right to do that. I think you were raped.”

But does my silence compound this type of double standard? How would you have reacted?

Topics: sexuality, gender, rape, double standards, keep it in your pants bitch