@stevenb, you have an 18 year old twin…
Well he was confident about this one girl. She kept staring at him at lunch. I decided to check with one of her close friends, and indeed she was crushing on him. So the day I was gonna tell him, she made her move, walked over to our table, said a nervous hi and quickly retreated to her lunch table. That sent him into his shy shell. Three weeks later he had worked up the guts to ask her out. I watched him get up from our lunch table and start the walk towards hers. As soon as he kept on walking and sat with a friend woo tables away from her, I knew something was up. When he came back to our table, he said he saw the friend mouthing the word “abort” and went to see what’s up. The friend told him that she had been asked out THAT MORNING. He was crushed.
Three months later, her relationship with the guy appeared to be on the rocks. My friend noted that she had started to stare at him again. He asked aloud if he should see what he could do to secretly make them break up, so he could ask her out. He said he would be mercily killing the relationship instead of watching her go through this heartbreak. Our friend sitting next to me said if he skrewed with the relationship, she’d tell the girl that he saboutaged it. So he gave up on the girl.