I came from a blended family. I still consider my step-sister from my mom’s 2nd marriage (she’s not married to step-sister’s dad anymore – their marriage was brief) my step-sister.
I am a step-mom. I’ve raised my stepson since he was 18 mo. old. His bio-mom has been in and out of his life – but I’ve been there for him as a real parent all along. (He’s turning 18 this year.)
I consider him my child. I was the one who took him to every dentist & doctor appointment.
He’s always attended school from our (my & my husband’s) home address. He’s lived with us, over the years, far more than 80% of the time.
I love him the same as my other two children. I hate when people say: “You can’t love him as much as your biological children”—because does that mean that adoptive parents can’t love their children because they aren’t biologically related. B.S.
This child does not remember a time in his life when I wasn’t there holding, loving & supporting him.
I still respect that he has a mom. A biological mom who loves him the best she can.
I strive to help them connect and have a good relationship because having 3 parents that love you is certainly not a bad thing.
My husband has not always supported me as the “mom” to his son with his Ex. He still thinks somehow I’m not really able to love him the same way he does. Again, I think that’s crap. That’s OK – we can disagree and still get on with life. (Life is dialectical – two things can be right at the same time. Or, time may out. Let enough time pass and perhaps he’ll see things differently) My hubby is still a good father and husband – what he thinks doesn’t change my relationship with my (step)son.