If you really want to change, and I don’t know that you do, you have to be honest with yourself and your therapist. Once you are honest, you can make a list of the things that you want to change about your current situation, then with the help of your therapist, and by taking all some of our advice, things will start to change. It’s not magic, it takes effort on your part, life-long effort.
If you are dishonest with yourself (about truly wanting to change) and dishonest with your therapist, nothing is going to change. Change within your life takes effort. Your effort.
Change is hard at first, it is un-comfortable at first, but unless you do a lot some things differently (for the better) nothing is ever going to change or get better.
It would be much easier for me (and the rest of the Jellies) to lay around and eat junk food and not get up and go to work, and not socialize, and not get out into the world, and not attempt to be useful to others, but our lives and our bodies would atrophy. That is not how I would want to live. You have to decide if that is how you want to live.
I’m not asking you what would be the easiest and most comfortable thing to do. I’m asking you how you want to live. Now you have to ask yourself that.