Who said anything about the one person who effected your life the most had to be a positive thing?
There was a teacher for the third grade who had was older and definitely disliked children from the very core of her being. She had tenure. Her classroom was placed directly across the hall from the main office, so there was no question as to whether they heard her yelling at her classes. They just simply did not do anything about it. She yelled at her classes constantly.
There were four of us she placed in the front desk of each row. Denise, Rob, Rich and myself. I was seven, the youngest in the class. Eight year olds are still little. They are full of energy and want to learn about most anything you work on with them.
Well, every day this woman becan class by telling all of us that we were not her best class in all her years in teaching. Then she would point to the four of us in the front and every day would say we were the worst students she had ever had in class. We were Never going to amount to anything because we were ignorant…
Every day. All day.
I finally asked my parents what that word meant: ignorant. There are two dents in the ceiling of the room where they reacted after asking where I had heard it used.
All four of us. Every day.
We all coped in our own ways. Denise was the best artist! She learned how to draw her pictures with the paper and a stub-pencil inside the opening of the desk were you kept your ‘stuff’. She mastered it. Rob? He was trouble from day one. If girls like bad boys- there you go. Rob brought an apple for the teacher one day. She put it on her desk located in front of him. Every time she was busy, he poked a hole in the side facing him, with his pencil. I think we were all hoping she’d die of lead poisoning. ( in wasn’t lead- but hope springs eternal in the third-grader’s heart.) Rich was a goofy and fun kid. He ate his boogers. The teacher made him cry on occasion. Me? Well, I developed the ability to zone out. Watch everything and go through the motions, but kinda dead, doing my own thing. Hearing my siblings 45 RPM record music play in my head, looking for fossils at the river and where could I find the best ones next time. etc. Anything. Survival mode.
Denise had three kids and still draws in her spare time, Rob, got in trouble about a car later on- never saw him again. Rich got married and worked at a machine shop. And me? I drove myself mercilessly to learn and do and work really hard. One of my favorite jobs was teaching 11th and 12th grade students in a vocational high school. English, communications, and work skills. Not one of the over 1,650+ kids, Ever, Ever, said that they were stupid and couldn’t figure out how to do the work. The really observant ones saw the depth in my eyes change and the widening of my pupils whenever I heard that. Then we went to work to change that feeling.
So my one person whom effected the way my life would ‘go’ the most?
Mrs. Hannahs, my third grade teacher.