After getting rid of my ex who proceeded to tear me down endlessly with how much of a ‘hero’ she was, it left me in a wreck of how worthless I was. She said a lot of mean things, but in the end the reality was I was susceptible to these things, I had a lack of self esteem that I stuck around and dealt with her trash.

I get addicted to push/pull behavior out of girls, I get anxious about ‘why hasn’t she called back!?’ etc. Has anyone here been in deep with these problems but pulled themselves out? What are tips for giving yourself value – esp. in the face of narcissistic abuse of my worhtlessness and their greatness?