She was pretty hard to get because she had somewhat a social phobia and did not grow up in a good home. She tried to keep me out of her private life because of this.

It was hard to win her love, but now she clings to me like a rock, if not an addiction. You’d think I’d be grateful, but she wants to be with me every available moment. Unfortunately, I live about an hour away from her and my life is here. I spend several lengthy times a week with her, three or four days a week and talk on the phone about 4 hours every day with her. But her loneliness and anxiety go back to normal levels as soon as we part. The phone is not enough for her.

I spend one night a week with her, but she wants me to stay every night, makes me feel guilty about leaving, and clings physically tto me when I have to go, looking devastated. Is this even real love?

I am reasonably busy and already find the time I spend with her to be excessive for an unmarried couple living this far apart. Marriage is not an option now for economic reasons.

Anything you think might work will be greatly apprecioated.