I didn’t like how the number beds felt at all when I tried them in the store. Then I was lucky and a hotel I stayed at had one, and I knew for sure I didn’t like it.
The foam gets hot, I see other jellies mentioned it.
I tend to buy spring mattresses with the separate coils. I don’t buy the pillow tops, but I have slept in some that are very comfortable. My husband who likes a very soft bed prefers a really good pillow top. On our regular mattress we have a high quality mattress cover that makes it have kind of a pillow top, just not as luxurious as some of them.
Things to think about, many mattresses are ridiculously thick now, and if you have old school sheets they won’t fit. I need to buy a 12” mattress, because my platform bed, bought when I got married, needs a 12” or less, and I still have a couple sheet sets that don’t have very deep pockets. I hate having to fix my sheets every morning, and when sheets barely fit that tends to happen.
Also, your husband likely will need a softer bed than you to be comfortable, unless you just simply tend to like a soft bed. Make sure you actually lie down on the mattresses in your sleep position. Bring a cloth with you if it freaks you out to lay your head down where everyone is doing the same. I personally never worry about that. Remember the bed might be a little broken in (softer) in the store than what gets delivered.