I don’t see why one would have to choose, but I will. I do think the age of the child matters for this Q.
1. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: independence or respect for elders?
Independence.
But, respect for elders is very important if only for the selfish reason that they have experience in life and can teach you a lot. Then there is the whole golden rule thing.
2. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: obedience or self-reliance?
Self reliance.
But, under age 10 obedience is pretty important, because young kids don’t have great judgement. Adolescence is important! Kids becoming defiant is important. They exercise their disobedience with their parents as practice. We want girls especially to not be in the habit of being obedient in my opinion. Men culturally take on leadership roles in relationships still today, leaving women to often with less of a voice.
3. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: to be considerate or to be well-behaved?
Considerate.
I don’t see how you can misbehave constantly and be considerate at the same time. These two things work in concert.
4. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: curiosity or good manners?
Curiosity.
But, if you don’t have good manners it’s stunts you from being able to socialize with people who can teach you things you are curious about.
(Thanks @JLeslie. You saved me a lot of typing!)