^ Gender stereotyping aside, ouch.
The OP did not mention anyone aiming to bed the other.
My now wife was seeing another man when we slowly got to know each other online.
She frequently expressed her dissatisfaction with this guy. He was not abusive, but possibly even worse he was a spineless bore.
As she and I fell in love her boyfriend was making cowardly attempts to end their relationship by simply not being available. The day came when she hunted him down in order to announce that they were done. She called me right after, feeling like she had just been paroled. There was a lovely full moon that night.
We’ve been married for 8 years now and couldn’t be happier.
“Penis Wielders.”
Sure, I’m more than happy to wield it like any proper swordsman.
If you’d like nearly any other style of approach I’m happy to oblige you.
“I have a boyfriend” does not equal “STOP, Get off me, I do not want to do this.”
Sex (at least for now) involves a verbal contract. Plain language is necessary.