Thank you for contribution guys, I’m also trying to understand better what the hell was going though his mind to have this kind of behavior in the first place. It really doesn’t suits him but then again, I know people will always react differently to scary news. And in his case, he decided to ignore it. I still strongly disagree with that. Regardless of how hard this has been on him, I can only imagine how MUCH HARDER it has been for the single mother and child.
Of course, I could always go down the same road with him, try to forget about it and pretend like nothing has ever happened or just playing the “it’s none of my business” card and get out of it and I almost wish he hadn’t told me nothing at all.
But now that he has told me, and as much as I don’t want to be a judgmental person, the truth is that I cannot let it go. I believe that both child and mother have rights that must be respected above all his fears. I believe that as much as I know we should respect each other’s privacies, we live in an open world where people’s actions affect other people. And that people have feelings. If he messed me up with his insane behavior I have the right to fight back and try to help him to do the right thing! I don’t even see it as a right, but more as a duty while being his friend! Also, being the only other person that actually knows about it, makes me feel a HUGE RESPONSIBILITY in actually doing my very best to guide him into doing the right thing as fast as possible. I come to the conclusion that I just can’t let it go, and I know some will tell me that I was probably out of line, messing with none of my business, I think I prefer to be out of line than out of business. And that I prefer feeling guilty for going out of my way doing what I think is right, than regretting doing nothing at all.
I just can’t stand the idea of the possibility of remaining friends with him, keeping his secret, and turning out to meet her years later when she’s older and comes looking for him and looking her in the eyes and see how hard it must have been for her growing up without a father, or being completely clueless about him, while I knew all about it.
I sent him him a message saying I was sorry for being harsh but that I would like him to stop running from his duty, that I would be his friend and also that I would help him out in whatever he would need to do the right thing and help both mother and child. I also told him that if he refuses to do it, he would not also be missing out what could possible be the happiest moments of his life and the opportunity to make his daughter happy, but also he would be loosing a friend willing to help as well as all the respect I had for him. I also requested the mother details so that I could send her some baby stuff and presents as I always like to do to all y friend’s babies! (I think this one will scare him ;) I also sent him some cute videos of fathers and daughters just trying to reach his heart. Let’s see how this one rolls.
Note: I’m not trying to fix him as a person, but I’m trying my best to fix the situation I was, luckily or unfortunately, told about.
But yeah guys, by all means, feel free to criticize me, I need to be ready for when he replies that.