@Espiritus_Corvus If you don’t have Windows 10 Pro, you have no option to tell it not to install updates automatically (most frustrating “improvement” in Win 10, in my opinion).
I’ve seen a registry edit that is supposed to work around this, but I tried it and it did not work for me at all. The only thing I can do is change the following:
PC Settings > Network & Internet > scroll down to Advanced Options, and click “Set to metered connection.
This is designed for people who have limited bandwidth, and want to choose when to download updates. Unfortunately, there is no way to choose which updates to install. It’s all or nothing. Though, on a nearly daily basis, Windows Defender tells me it wants to update, and I let it do that. That implies that only security updates are getting through, but I have a strong suspicion that when I give it permission to do security updates, it just updates everything at the same time. The lack of control is insulting and frustrating.
Now, if I could just find a way to make it stop giving me dumb platitudes in large type while configuring updates, and have it just tell me it’s configuring updates (and, yeah, maybe tell me what its progress is), that would make me feel a little less like flinging my computer against a wall. As far as I can tell, there’s no way to do that, either.