@cazzie
Ha ha. Very good analogy. In fairness, I’m inclined to think thar the OP is trying to figure out whether it’s warranted to take the next logical step and perhaps see a professional to pursue this further.
Even in the TV program which I referenced, it’s not a black and white clear cut situation for the adult character, Hank. Even the specialist whom he eventually goes to see called it a “jump ball” (that’s an :analogy to the American game of basketball) meaning it could go either way as to whether he was or wasn’t. But, regardless, there were helpful behavioral insights which could be gleaned.
If I recall correctly, you’ve previously mentioned having a child who is on the spectrum, is that correct? If so, I’m sure that makes you pretty close to being an unofficial expert in these matters.
I know that there are at least two Fluther members who’ve mentioned having only been diagnosed in adulthood since there just wasn’t that much awareness during their childhood years.
And aside from gaining insight into personality and behavior, theres no medication or treatment after adult diagnosis. (I might be mistaken about that part) but I’m hoping that one or both of the Jellies I referenced might chime in here with any insights from their experiences.