The quickest and painless way to get over an abusive realtionship is to realize that you did
NOT HAVE TO BE IN ONE!
You stayed in this abusive relationship because you felt deep down in yourself that you were not worthy of a HEALTHY relationship..hense you attracted that in your life, BUT Now you may or may not understand the “WHY” of it..that is where couselling will help .
Understand that to get away from that abusive realtionship that you had the courage to stand up for yourself abet that it sometimes takes time to get to that point.
Nevertheless YOU ARE AT THAT POINT NOW..so do not let into your life anyone who does not respect you, your family, your goals, ambitions, dreams,looks,character or whatever else that makes you YOU!
Realize that there is in fact someone who will treat you with respect and the worthyness that you deserve, when you respect yourself enough for it to happen.
End an abusive realtionship knowing that there are better people for you in this World.
In order for a healthy relationship to happen, get rid of the abusive ones and stay away from them..they have problems of their own to work on.
Good Luck and Best Wishes for a better life that you will carve out for yourself because you deserve it.