There are so many variances within your question really. There’s no simple response.
I think dealing with personal issues is quite different to professional situations @imrainmaker. It might have nothing to do with your competence and everything to do with the personal nature of the relationships involved. We tend to put up with more bad behaviour from those we love and care about, and it can be harder to be firm and hold people to account. And frankly, those who know us best can sometimes be our worst critics (apart from ourselves of course). So on one hand we can let people get away with too much, and on the other hand, people who know us very well may not hold back in telling us we stuffed up.
On the flipside, messing up and making a fool of ourselves professionally can have a greater affect on our reputations. We are also likely to face criticism because people are in a competitive situation. Yet at times people in a professional situation are less invested in our faux pas, and may let things slide OR if it works in their favour they may amplify a small mistake to suit their own needs.
However, I still think what I said further up applies. We all stuff up personally and professionally and in either situation we need to evaluate whether we really need to do anything about it or just accept everyone stuffs up. I hope this isn’t something that’s particularly bothering you @imrainmaker.