There are a few websites lauded to be ideal for meeting fellow asexuals on the internet, but I find very few people who are in a similar geographic region on these sites. Further, being homoromantic complicates things slightly, as it limits the number of asexuals who I would be interested in romantically. Finally, being transgender further complicates things, as it further limits the number of potential matches by limiting the number of people from the selection who would be interested in me in a romantic way.

I’ve been told all sorts of things regarding my asexuality, homoromantic tendencies, and transgenderism. Examples being that my asexuality is simply an expression of my suppression of natural desires… That my nearly exclusive interest in women is simply a result of having been mistreated by men or that I simply haven’t met the right man, yet… And that being transgender is just some sort of fad that I have latched onto, when really I’m just a “fag”. Obviously, I don’t agree with these things that I’ve been told, but I thought it might be worthwhile to mention them as they help identify some of the things I struggle with when trying to form interpersonal relationships.

I know that my self-identification as asexual is not a result of suppression, but rather a result of a complete lack of desire or interest in sexual activity combined with a lack of physical attraction. I know that my preference for other women comes more from positive experiences with women, rather than negative or missing experiences with men. Also, I know that being transgender has more to do with how I think and feel about myself rather than some attraction to one gender or another…

I would like very much to find companionship and possibly even love… It has been some years since I last had a truly meaningful relationship, and I miss it. However, it seems like the probability for success, given my terms and conditions, is almost negligible. If you were me, had the desires that I have and the qualities that I have, how would you go about finding someone to spend the rest of your life with?

Topics: love, dating, transgender, Misconceptions, dating sites, companionship, asexuality, asexual, homoromantic