When it’s cruel, then it’s only common for manipulators to do this. The average person does not play these kind of games.
We average people don’t often think that the others we meet are manipulative, until they demonstrate through their behavior that they have ulterior motives for everything they do. If a person manipulates you in a cruel way, never trust that person. You don’t have to confront them or tell others about it. You can simply make a mental note for yourself to be wary around that person in the future.
Jokes are another matter entirely, and I think the others have answered it above.