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How to deal with a messy roommate?

Asked by Mandysteele (4points) March 22nd, 2017
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I live in a 3 bedroom house with my roommates who have 2 children. I understand kids are messy, but its a little crazy. I work a full time job, my boyfriend works full time as well, my two roommates on the other hand, only her boyfriend works. She is home ALL THE TIME. So I don’t understand why there are molded dishes, food molding on plates in the living room, and clothes all over the house. And my roommate acts like it doesn’t bug her, when I talk to her about keeping the house in order she tells me ” we aren’t trying to impress anyone” yet when anyone comes over they call me and say we need clean the house.
I’m so tired of picking up after everyone. Her boyfriend refuses to do anything about anything until he can’t stand the smell.
Another issue is that her boyfriend only pays half of the rent while my boyfriend and I pay for half the rent, power, water, all of our Netflix, and the internet. So, the least they could do is keep the house clean…

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chyna's avatar

The only thing you can do is move. You can’t change people. You and your boyfriend need to find a place to rent that the two of you can afford.

MrGrimm888's avatar

I think you should have a talk with them. Make your expectations of the dwelling’s cleanliness clear.

Compromise is required in such relationships. One must understand that the people they are rooming with are not going to automatically know, or agree with how you run things. But once you put your desires on the table, and all parties involved discuss (constructively) the “rules of the house,” then you can discuss what rules are broken, and how to deal with that specific situation, based on your agreed terms, and how to move forward.

If you are struggling with rent in your current situation, I would try to see the financial positives, and try and make it work.

Otherwise, like @chyna suggested, move,or have the roommates leave….

Good luck.

mhd14's avatar

There is no way you can change a personal behavior. A famous Hindi saying will fit here, “Kutte ki dum, tedi ki tedhi he rahegi” means- A dog’s tail is crooked forever.
Change your room and live separately with your BF.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Been there, all you can do is find other arrangements

BellaB's avatar

They are who they are, you are who you are. They are not meeting your (reasonable in my opinion) expectations.

Talk to your boyfriend about finding a place the two of you can afford together.

AshlynM's avatar

Either move or get the roommates to move.

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