Oops, I got off on a tangent there in relation to @Espiritus_Corvus post.
To answer the question.
I do not like asking for help, at all. I will, on occasion, depending on what it is but in general I am fiercely independent and especially since being tanked in the recession a few years ago I am sensitive to feeling vulnerable these days. I only asks if I am really in a jam of some sort. I know several do-gooder types and it bothers me when they are always offering unsolicitated “help.”
People like this prevent true communication because anything you say in passing or sharing a frustration or concern makes them jump into their “helper” mode. Gah!
Just STFU and listen, just because I share a frustration does not mean I need or want your help.
If I need help I will ask for it, otherwise, back the fuck off. haha
I strongly distrust most do-gooder types, 9 out of 10 times they are co-dependent and compulsive in their constant need to help which usually is based on this being a primary way for them to maintain and bolster their own self image. Ick!
I enjoy giving but am not a do-gooder type. I find it insulting and infantilizing to force “help” on those that have not asked for it.