stanleybmanly I disagree. It’s not necessarily a grass is greener thing. Money struggles suck. Our fricking society makes money very important. You know, for things like shelter and medical care and education.
Studies show people with more money are happier.
No one should marry for money, but money matters enough that I would advise don’t marry someone irresponsible with money, or who is broke all of the time, unless you have plenty of money yourself.
When I used to say I want to marry someone rich my dad would say, “no, you should want to make lots of money yourself, not rely on a man for it.” I appreciate that he tried to reinforce in his daughters to pursue their own career, money, and financial independence, but he never said the “grass looks greener” when looking at people with money. I agree with him. Money is freedom and independence in our country, and that also means power. Power over our own lives.
If society, income, and covering our basic needs was different, then I would feel differently. I live in a place where most people have socialized medicine (Medicare) reasonable housing costs, many many benefits included in the very reasonable maintenance fee, and a tremendous amount of volunteering that provides free learning and services. Money matters much less here in so many ways and it’s great. It’s just a small bubble in the vastness of our out of control, runaway, capitalistic society.
I can’t answer for @Dutchess_III but I do know she has lived in a very comfortable middle class way, and been in very hard economic times. She knows very well both ways of life.