I have stayed close with my in-laws in England since the divorce; I’ve known some of them since they were teens. Since my Ex and I split up, I went to the wedding of one niece, but passed on the wedding of a nephew last year because my Ex would be coming with his new wife. Now, time has passed and I’m less hurt by his remarriage. Another nephew (from a different sib than last year’s) will be having a wedding. I want to indicate that I would try to come if asked. Would it be gauche to send an e-mail to that effect? Or should I ask a different SIL to pass the message on? I’m afraid that they might think I wouldn’t come since I didn’t last year and not invite me.