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What do you do when you feel worthless?

Asked by cinnamonk (5402points) July 7th, 2017
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I hate myself right now and I don’t want to feel this way even though I know I deserve it what do I do

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zenvelo's avatar

Write down ten positive things you have done in the last month. They can be inconsequential, they can be almost meaningless, but they are positive things you have done! You have asked good questions on Fluther, that brightens people’s day!

Have you done laundry in the last month? Have you kept yourself clean? Have you cooked yourself anything? Have you tidied up anywhere? Have you said hello, or smiled, or acknowledged anyone’s existence? How many GA’s and GQ’s have you given on Fluther?

You contribute, and you are part of a community that values you! Recognize that in yourself!

PullMyFinger's avatar

What I do do is less important than what I don’t do.

What I do do is don’t look in the mirror as often as I can’t. I don’t know who the hell that guy is, but I do know that he used to be much easier to look at…..especially in the morning….

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Thank you for asking us this question. It takes a lot of courage to ask a question like this.

I have felt that way, too. I understand very well what it’s like to hate myself. I used to feel that way most of the time.

The first thing I did was to be gentle with myself. I recognized that what I was feeling was very natural for the trauma I lived through. Trauma has a way of warping our reactions to stress. We get all sorts of weird coping mechanisms that seem to work on the surface but don’t really.

I recognized that the feelings of hating myself weren’t really directed at me. I hated something I was experiencing, and I blamed myself for allowing myself to experience it. Does that make sense? I thought I should have been smarter to avoid whatever unpleasantness I’d been through.

I was wrong. Bad shit happened to me, and it wasn’t my fault.

I took this information, and I decided to nurture myself. I started simply. I decided to do one nice thing for myself each day. Just one. And I got to determine what that nice thing was. One day I chose to walk outside and lift my face to the warm sun. I stood there for a few minutes just feeling the warmth. Another day, I cooked myself something. I don’t cook often, so it was a treat. The point is that we each get to decide for ourselves.

I don’t know if what I did can help you, but that’s my story. I hope you feel better quickly.

Sneki2's avatar

I cry a bit, then have a nap.
When that is over and my brain is rational again, I accept being a waste of air and then try to solve whatever can be solved, and saying “meh, whatever” to all the parts that can’t be changed.

Crying is fine, but then you gotta stop it, accept your state, and try to solve the problem.

stanleybmanly's avatar

ice cream

Pachy's avatar

Get out of your head and DO something.

A few ideas:

Volunteer to help a person or a cause
Start going to the gym or YMCA
Take up a hobby
Go to music concerts and plays (if either is your taste)
Have meals out regularly with friends
Talk to a psychologist
Get out of your comfort zone and do something different
Take a trip to another town or city. Doesn’t have to be far away, just get away from you own environment…

And whatever you do, get away from your TV and computer and other electronic time-wasters and get outside into fresh air and sunshine.

Aster's avatar

I accept it knowing that billions of people are , to a lesser or greater extent, worthless . Then I feel grateful that I’m able to be worthless and am able to wring some pleasure out of it. Like watching worthless tv shows and reading books that are redundant. I can sit at my computer for as many hours a day as I please eating marshmallows. And I’m hurting nobody. I love having choices like this. lol

cinnamonk's avatar

I don’t want anyone to see me I can’t leave my house

cinnamonk's avatar

there is a monster living inside of me and it’s hurting me right now and I can’t stop it

imrainmaker's avatar

No one on this planet is worthless my friend. If you love reading Read inspirational books / autobiographies or stories like This which tells what an ordinary person can achieve.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

When I feel worthless I call my mom and text her for a big ***(((HUG)))***

PullMyFinger's avatar

@RedDeerGuy1 I’m pretty sure this is why nature gave us moms in the first place….

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

@PullMyFinger Yeah nature!

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cinnamonk's avatar

My mom is 900% the reason I’m having these feelings right now she abused me for years lol lol

cinnamonk's avatar

I wish I had a mom I could talk to when I feel like shit

cinnamonk's avatar

lol I’m constantly reliving the things she did to me lol I can’t get it out of my head lol
haha

cinnamonk's avatar

lol I wouldn’t treat a dog the way she treated me lol

cinnamonk's avatar

for years and years and years and years

cinnamonk's avatar

it never stops hurting I’m almost 27 it never stops hurting

cinnamonk's avatar

im such a piuece of shit

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

@cinnamonk I’m 39 and I am slowly getting over the B.S. that happened to me in 2000 in university when I was 20. All I can offer you is my time and a ***(((HUG)))*** .

cinnamonk's avatar

I have so much more future hurting to look forward to

cinnamonk's avatar

removed

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

@cinnamonk I want to die sometimes too. Don’t let the bastards grind you down.

cinnamonk's avatar

What do you mean by that?

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

@cinnamonk I don’t know… just a nice saying.

cinnamonk's avatar

I hate my life.

cinnamonk's avatar

I wish I could make her feel what she did to me.

cinnamonk's avatar

I know it was done to her too though and that’s why she did it to me.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Sounds like you are going through a personality shift.

cinnamonk's avatar

nope this is what I am and have always been

cinnamonk's avatar

a piece of shit

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Others would recommend you see a counsellor, but they never help me.

cinnamonk's avatar

i was going to therapy but my therapist moved 2 weeks ago. Now I have no one.

cinnamonk's avatar

she didn’t even tell me she was going away until our last session.

cinnamonk's avatar

she was the only one in my city who both took my insurance and who had availability.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Are you being tempted by the dark side?

cinnamonk's avatar

wtf. what does that mean.

cinnamonk's avatar

you mean I want to kill myself?

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

Or hurt others.

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

I have panic attacks at night. Sorry that I cant help you as much as I want to.

cinnamonk's avatar

sorry to hear that. I have them too.

cinnamonk's avatar

thanks for being here.

Aethelwine's avatar

I’m sorry you are hurting. I do what you did with this question when I feel worthless. Reach out.

I’ll listen if that’s what you need.

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