I wouldn’t call us traditional, but for a couple our age, I wouldn’t say we’re unusual either.
We both work as software engineers. I make slightly more than he does. We split the rent 50/50, I pay for groceries, and he pays utilities (these come out roughly equal). We alternate paying for dinners out and other dates. Our finances are otherwise separate. He’s paying off massive student loans while I’m debt-free. Pooling our finances someday will be good for him.
We both cook (he does the cooking a little more often than I do), we both clean, we both get to be the little spoon. He drives because the car is his and because I hate driving.
We aren’t at a point yet where this is imminent, but he is much more enthusiastic about the concept of kids than I am, although I’m warming up to the idea. I do have a hard rule though (and he knows this) against ever being pregnant, so when it comes down to it we’ll be looking at adoption or surrogacy. Of the two options, he prefers surrogacy and I prefer adoption, lol. If we do surrogacy, I hope we will just use his sperm and the eggs of the surrogate. I don’t really want to pass on my shit genes, and it also seems much less medically complex than putting my eggs into another woman, however that even works. So that, if it happens, will be pretty non-traditional, but that’s still some distance down the road.
I expect, if/when we have kids, that I will no longer work full-time, simply because I am the one of the two of us who less enjoys working at a corporation, and we like the idea of having a parent in the home with the kid(s). I hope and expect to always have projects going on from the home even if I’m not employed, which is easy to do in my field.