How in the world did I, of all creatures, miss this question?!
I’ll take option 3 – one that you did not list – and be a big fish in a big pond. When you’re a big fish in a small pond, everyone thinks you’re a bully. When you’re a small fish in a big pond, either no one notices you, or you have to be afraid all of the time. I’d rather be big enough to take care of myself, and swim in an ocean that has enough room for everyone.