Hello! Congratulations on your baby boy! That’s so great!
I don’t have an answer for you, but I can give you insight through my perspective.
My father left me when I was 14. I was completely heart broken, my sister is still recovering from self esteem issues. It was really hard. There are still times when I see kids with their dads and I get insanely jealous.
I like the advice above. Do not bash your baby’s dad in front of him. My mom, though she means well, did this a lot. It would often make me cry and feel terrible. So please, don’t bash your sons father in front of him.
Let him know that you love him, and all he needs is you. I never once doubted my moms love for me and it has helped ease the pain SO MUCH. Encourage him to grow and be his own person too. Be active in his life, which I’m sure you will be.
I like the idea of good strong male figures, such as a grandpa. My moms father left her as well, but her grandpa stepped in and took his place. She considers him her dad.
My best friend had a baby as a teen, and her boyfriend left her and the baby. She is very active in her little girls life. Her grandma, uncle, her church friends and I are all super involved in her baby’s life as well. She’s only 3, but not having her dad around hasn’t seemed to bother her yet. I think if you can find a bunch of people who want to see your son succeed, you’ll be on the right track.
I’m sorry I don’t have an answer or great advice, but I hope I helped a bit. I’m sorry that you two are going through this. This is something no one should have to experience. I wish you two the best!