hmmm, i guess when i think about it, it seems like women typically go for personality over looks. You always here someone say something like, oh shes with THAT guy??? and we all know what that means. And you hear that much more often than, Hes with her??? So I guess women are looking for a guy whos masculine (and i dont just mean people with macho attitudes), which doesn’t necessarily require him to be attractive, And men look for women who are feminine, which does typically require them to be within a reasonable weight and attractiveness. obviously personality is a factor for both, but for men, its a factor that comes after the initial introduction, and women, its usually something they look for right away.