Is everything our parents fault? I’m talking about who we become as adults. For example, I read somewhere that desiring fame intensely has to do with being ignored or neglected as a kid. I’ve also read some Freud. Parents seem to make or break human beings. I was beat a few times as a child (and when I say beat, I mean my dad dragging me across the house punching, throwing and kicking me as he screams in anger and my mom screaming on top of me slapping me till I bleed). But I am confused by my parents’ behavior. I’m not sure whether I should completely love them or be skeptical about them. But they also have had and continue to have amazing moments. They support me financially, they verbalize love, they show physical affection… But then they say stuff out of blue like I wasted this money on you, and Its heartbreaking. I never thought they felt that way because they act loving, but then they throw such hurtful phrase. It makes me feel like a failure who can’t do anything right because, if my parents say they wasted 50 dollars an hour for my singing lessons when I was 14, how can I believe they believe in me? But then they just show love. It only recently started to get to me, this inconsistency and how it has impacted me negatively.
Its always been like this, ever since I was born.

Am I not seeing how great they are? Am I being unjust?

How much can we blame our parents for our mental health or who we simply end up being?

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