He does try to talk to her. She doesn’t take it well. She somehow actually believes that screaming is more effective than actual discipline, such as time outs. She just isn’t very mature. When the kids upset her she tends to react like a two year old herself, rather than an adult in charge.
I have actually created a pseudo-fictitious character who lives across the street from me, who tends to just yell and scream at her kids. She’s actually a real person who does just that, and it makes me sick, but when I see my DIL doing something that is actually self defeating, after a few days I’ll replay it in the guise of the lady across the street, then give my opinion of what she should have done differently, what would have worked better.
Interesting article @longgone. Thank you.
And I’d LOVE to babysit!! I could turn that child around in half a day! He could be the utter delight his father was, instead of a bratty, whiny brat.
Working on keeping the lines of communication open with my DIL.
Thank you for all the suggestions. I’ll let you know when the opportunity comes up to address some of this stuff, and how it goes.
She has a counselor she talks to on a regular basis…I wish I could be a fly on the wall so I could hear what kinds of things she tells her. Wish I could make an appointment with her counselor myself, so she gets a different perspective.