I brought my husband along for therapy twice during our marriage. One time was early on, and I was having very bad health issues (nothing life threatening) and I don’t think my husband really wanted to come, but he did. I barely remember what we talked about, but what I remember clearly was my next session my therapist told me how great she thought my husband was. I remember being surprised she said it.
The second time was just a year ago. I asked him to go, because I feel like our communication skills have been way off the last few years. I constantly feel like I don’t know what he wants or what he’s feeling. I never felt like that the 20 years of marriage before this time. During the session he cane right out saying he felt the session was a waist of time, and he talked about the pressure he was under. I really wish we could have gone to three or four more sessions, but I realized he didn’t understand my confusion, and that because of his current stress level he just can’t work on our marriage right now. The therapist seemed very empathetic towards him, which I found interesting and useful.
I don’t mind that we have a lot of tension the last few years, it’s been a time of great change, disappointment, and stress, as long as his commitment to the marriage is still strong. One thing that troubles me is he does mind a lot. He tends to be idealistic about life, and idealistic is unrealistic in my opinion. I do think he feels commuted though, but it has been a trying time.
In conclusion, I can’t speak for my husband, but my perception is if someone “doesn’t see the point” in therapy, it isn’t very productive.