What happens when you gouge a tree with an axe? The wound will heal, but never fully. The mark remains as a flared protrusion for the remainder of its life. Likewise the mark doesn’t really change in height or location as the tree continues to grow. However, as the tree gets larger, the wound makes up a smaller total of the whole.
It is this way with us too. Some pain never really goes away. The invisible conscience is scarred, in the truest sense, just as the body. But as your experiences multiply, the pain that was becomes a increasingly diluted fraction of You. In that way, an efficient method to cope can be sought, however apathetically at first, in a burst of new experiences. Grow until the scar that may now dominate the landscape of your mind becomes an insignificant fray in the tapestry of your life.
When we’re faced with something unbearable—something you can’t stand but that just continues to happen anyway, the person who’s left afterwards isn’t you anymore. You’ve changed; become someone different. The one who could bear it afterall.