When I noticed a new jelly being bombarded with a public display for doing something that wasn’t accepted by established jellies, I questioned why this wasn’t done through a
PM & was told that PM’ing new jellies is considered rude & the pool needed to know that they had been corrected. So, although I understand what rebbel is saying, I don’t understand the mentality where you publicly flog a new jelly for a mistake & privately congratulate them for working to improve their activity here thereby helping to improve the site.That seems counter productive to me IF you truly want to build the pool back up!!!
Although many see the lurve points as merely a number, those who created the site set it up as an award system & as such, it’s the initial qualifier of how active a new jelly is being. IF this is done via PM, how is the pool to know what has been done??? I don’t know that we need a mansion party for every 5,000 points; but, what would the crime be for publicly acknowledging that a new jelly has worked hard to support Fluther by congratulating them for their time & effort. Then, every 10,000 points might be plenty because the lurve points are only a number & you’re obviously planning to stay & be productive. I know the mansion parties I’ve seen didn’t make the lurve point seem unimportant. I’m still new enough that I do believe that I will be more proud of my 5,000 mark than I will be in 10 years when I reach my 50,000 mark. Maybe I’m wrong & will gladly apologize in 10 years when I’ve found out what it feels like to reach the 50,000 mark!!!