It depends. Ben and Andrew designed the moderation system at Fluther on the consensus model of decision making. For the most part, the team makes decisions and answers questions collectively and only acts unilaterally in cases where consensus can be assumed (e.g., removing something that is obviously spam or answering basic questions like “where can I find the site’s guidelines?”).
It’s more complicated when someone asks a question that involves another member (especially if they are asking for personal information, which happens more than you might expect) or when two members come into conflict (even if that conflict is largely one-sided, as is also frequently the case). We can often act quickly when someone is being targeted, but figuring out what to say about it without violating the privacy rules Ben and Andrew set up can take time and requires discussion and explicit consensus.
Two more complicating factors are the sheer volume of messages we receive (436 new ones since last time I checked my Fluther email), and the fact that sometimes “here’s my proposed draft” gets misinterpreted as “here’s what I sent them” (which I’m afraid might have happened in this case). Obviously, the volume of email is no one’s fault (we really do want your flags!), and the misinterpretations are our fault (not making excuses, but sometimes you miss things when you’re going through so many messages).
@ucme On a whim, I searched my email archive for messages from you. During my two stints as a moderator, I can’t find any question you’ve asked that has taken more than a day or two to answer. If your wife can grow a full beard in that amount of time, then I suppose that's between you and her.