@Bri L – great list!
Goals – what are your goals – do they match up, at all or are they so different that they will cause too much conflict?
The family/ kid thing was the most important, for me. How do you want to spend your time with them? I know one too many people that want different family styles. It gets very difficult and has finally (part of the reason) split up one couple I know.
You need to know the person’s connection with their family. Are they close, what is that relationship like? How do they feel about your family? Are you close to your family? Will they be ok or will you – with incorporating certain family traditions into your life?
Can you and your partner sit in a room together and just feel comfortable? It’s funny how many people just can’t relax around each other.
If your interests aren’t the same, do they compliment each other or are you going to groan every single time they ask you to do some they want to do – or vice versa.
Have you spent 4 seasons together? It’s amazing how some people change – a lot – throughout the seasons!
Illness? I’m sick. I have cancer. My husband is wonderful. I’ve been in-patient, a lot! He’s had to raise the kids, alone, too much! Will that person be there for you? I know you might not ever truly know until it happens; however, do you have a good indication as to whether or not that person will stand by you? Will you stand by them? It’s hard, extremely hard.
Do you respect each other?
Name 5 reasons why want to spend the rest of your life together – do not include anything about their looks.