I guess being the “other” mate I am the one who gets put down by by husband when he’s mad or frustrated because he handles most of the finances and that is what it is usually about. He’s going to take it out on someone and I am there….now if there happened to be a friend he wouldn’t do it to them. He broke my car door…did I throw a fit and scream at him. No. What can I do when this happens? My friends tell me he is so insecure is the reason why he does it. I have told him before if you are tired of me just give me the word. If he could just see how it makes him look..its disgusting. But everyone that knows him thinks he is the nicest man. I am tired of it. What kind of come back would be appropriate when he does this to me. He’s mad at himself and feels like a failure. I do all I can to try and keep him happy but it guessing all the time gets tiring.