My husband was at a huge party when I was out of town. I didn’t make a big deal of it, but I showed some concern. Mainly because I’m an introvert and have different likes than going out to parties. Also, this was a huge party with many of his exes and old crushes.

At the party, he didn’t respond or text me for more than 5 hours while at the party which kept me awake all night worrying. He always texted me goodnight, so I was mad that he didn’t do that while out, especially knowing I voiced some concerns with this huge party.

On top of that, the next day, he was very calm and entitled while I was very hurt. He told me about his evening. He said he did coke when his friend offered him some. That hurt more.

I am upset that he wasn’t considerate enough to tell me the usual goodnight while at a party, but also that he didn’t let me know he was just about to do coke.

He knew that I looked down on drugs like coke and x at parties. Before we became serious, he said he did it only rarely (last time was 8 months ago)

He said that I didn’t cross his mind when he decided to do it, that he just did it at the moment so he didn’t think of texting me and it was not a big deal because coke isn’t a big deal at a night out. And he said he didn’t look at his phone at all for 5 hours as he was busy socializing and having fun.

I don’t know what to do from here. I’m incredibly hurt that he didn’t text me when he was offered coke. I’m hurt that he didn’t check his phone for 5 hours after coke and tell me the regular goodnight. Please help me see a way to heal my relationship…