You are a permanent housewife (or a househusband). One day, one of your kid get naughty and caused a problem inside the house, your husband (or wife), who is the only witness of the scene, got angry, grabbed a belt, and whip your kid with it. You got home and see your kid whimpering in his room. Your spouse told you what happened. There’s no bleeding but some whipping marks are rather evident on his skin. Your spouse said “this is how my parents discipline their children. This is how I was brought up”. You soothe your kid and think about confronting your spouse. Suddenly, the reality hit your head and you know you have to act in a smart way in your situation. If you confront him and he got angry you’ll inevitably have conflict with him and there might be consequences you’ll have to pay. You fear that he might make excuses to delay/decrease your regular household allowances, that he might not be generous anymore to buy you a nice handbag (or other things you want) the next time you both go shopping, or it could be “I don’t feel like having sex with you anymore cuz you piss me off” issue or other unwanted outcome that crossed your head.

You also think about the pros. Maybe it’ll be fine to just overlook this issue. Maybe your kid has finally learned his lesson and this will never happen again. His pain will go away and his skin marks will eventually heal. There’s no need to cause a crack in your relationship with your spouse. You and your children have much to risks and you don’t want this one issue to jeopardize all the benefits you have been getting up until now. You have to think about the future and the good thing in the long run. What will you decide to do? Will you be impulsive and confront your spouse right away? Or will you act smart, weigh the pros and cons, and think of a solution with the most benefit? Tell us your honest reaction.

Topics: decision, relationships, household, children, problem, conflict, spouses, pros and cons